Here are 15 ways that I use to deal with stress when life gets tough.
Stress is an issue that most people face sometime in their life and some more than others. Stress can cause a host of problems, both mental and physical.
Being stressed out is something I am familiar with, just ask my husband or son, lol. For me, being pre-menopausal, having a teenage son, and an adult child for a husband, is just the tip of the iceberg. Then, adding in all the little things, I won’t bore you with the details, but so many are common issues that most everyone faces, like: money issues, unemployment, health issues, lack of communication, and just trying to balance everything going on in your life. It is like being a volcano, simmering on the inside, ready to blow.
Stress was causing me a lot of problems and like a pebble tossed in a pond, it caused problems all around me. So I asked myself, why am I stressed out and how am I going to fix these issues. Here are 15 ways to help deal with stress that I use and work for me.
1 – Realizing you need to “Just Let It Go”. This is the biggest one for me, I would not let things go. For example, I harbored much anger and hatred for a family member because of things that happened long ago. I asked myself, why are you carrying this heavy burden, it is only hurting you not her, she is not even aware. That made me realize that she was still hurting me and I was letting her. Well, I decided it is time to let THAT shit go. Look inside yourself, if you are holding on to old resentments, anger, hostility, or hatred, you need to Let It Go. The only person it is hurting is You.
2 – Trying not to take things personally. In this day and age, too many people take things WAY to personally that it is out of control. In my little world, when the husband or kid go silent, I always thought it was something I said or did, and they didn’t want to talk about it. I got so used to things being my fault that I thought everything was my fault, well I discovered, that is crap. Most of the time it has nothing to do with me, so I just stopped thinking that it does.
3 – Don’t be overprotective. This was a constant source of stress between my son and me. My son would get pissed at me all the time and accuse me of being overprotective. Yes, I was. I would get so worried and stressed out every time he walked out the door. Well that was ridiculous, it caused problems, stress, and yelling matches. Time to change. I needed to have faith in my son and trust that what I have been pounding into his head all these years would guide him to make wise choices and be a responsible person. I think of the movie Footloose, where the Reverend is making a speech in church about trusting our children, “if we don’t trust our children, how will they become trustworthy?” Indeed, so I have learned to trust my son more and not be so overprotective, still protective, just not overly.
4 – Learning to Take Deep Breathes. This really does work. Just take deep breaths to calm down. I take a deep breath in thru my nose and exhale slowly thru my nose. I find this incredibly helpful.
5 – Finding humor in things, Laugh. This may sound silly, but laughing is a great stress reliever, so is crying, but I would rather laugh. Don’t take things so seriously that you don’t laugh.
6 – Making time to Unplug. When I was a kid, there were no cell phones, personal computers, or all the electronic garbage that there is today. Too much technology is unhealthy, in my opinion. It can hurt you both mentally and physically. You need to have breaks from all the electronics. For example, sitting at the computer for hours is not real good for my physical health, I have to get up and move every 20 or 30 mins or my knees and back give me problems. And what about kids today, it seems they cannot do anything unless they have a cell phone in their hands. I wonder if they know how to talk face to face, lol.
7 – Spending time talking, Communicate. This may sound simple, but it can be a real issue that causes stress. Lack of communication can be a paramount problem, as I have seen in my household on a number of occasions. Talk, communicate, know what is going on, don’t just assume. It is vital, in my opinion, to have open lines of communication.
8 – Writing things down. I needed an outlet, a way to get shit off my chest. So I wrote it down, just let it pour out whatever had me so pissed off. I also started a blog, that was another outlet for me. It has been a way to share my experiences with others in hope to help them.
9 – Finding an outlet. I read, it is probably my best outlet to escape. When I read, I am so focused on the book that I don’t think of anything else. There are lots of outlets. Some people workout, run, cook, bake, meditate, and so many others. Just find your outlet.
10 – Organizing clutter, getting rid of junk. Every couple of months I reorganize. I just get annoyed at all the clutter around my house. I move furniture, throw stuff out, and rearrange cabinets. Too much clutter can be stressful, so just organize or get rid of it.
11 – Having quiet time. Most households today are filled with electronics. It can be very noisy. Lots of noise can cause stress, especially on a consist basis. Loud TV programs and the sound of machine guns killing zombies, or whatever is what I hear everyday, so quiet time for me is essential.
12 – Making certain you get enough quality sleep. Sleep is vital to maintaining our body. When we are sleeping our body repairs and rejuvenates itself. I, personally am a very cranky person when I don’t get enough sleep. The picture above is one of my cats, he sleeps so deeply, I had to take a picture.
13 – Hanging out with friends, socialize. Humans are social beings. We need to socialize. After being out of the work force for many years and just being a stay at home mom, it seems like I just withdrew. I stopped socializing, I didn’t go out, I didn’t do anything. This was not good. Socializing, just like communication, is so important.
14 – Don’t be negative. Negativity can cause stress and it can compound into bigger issues. It is a choice, you can choose to be positive or you can choose to be negative.
15 – Pray. I believe in God and I pray. It works for me. If that is not your thing, that is OK. I learned a long time ago it is not good to try to push religion on someone. A lot of people believe in some kind of higher power or energy and that’s great, whatever works for you. If you don’t believe in anything like that, that is OK too because it is your choice. If all else fails, prayer is always there.
Trying to be stress free is probably close to impossible in the world we live in today. However, how you deal with it is up to you. Thanks for reading.